I was watching Satyamev jayate the other day. It was about how dowry is involved during marriages and how this has spoilt so many lives.In the name of marriage everyone including the bride, their relatives and families are ready to scale up to any heights of nonsense to massage the ego of the other party.
Social stigma is another evil which has ruined lives of many who have a girl child or a young lady being pushed towards marriage.This institution of marriage and the commoditization of women in this process has spread itself so wide that most of what was unreasonable once has become an acceptable norm of the transaction of Marriage Market.
The issue of all crime related to women finds its roots in no other custom but in Business of Marriage.
The cementing of a relationship is based on sacrifices and worries of all parents as soon as they hold a newly born baby girl in their hands.Even in most forward subsets of the society there is an inkling in the heart that she would leave us one day and go.This process of giving security to young women eats away all resources and gives sleepless nights to all her guardians.
Issues like Female Foeticide , child marriage, domestication, illiteracy , rape , social dependence, eve teasing are issues which are all related to attitude of the society.
The attitude which is eating up all the confidence in this pseudo freedom given to girls in the name of Modernism and forward thinking.The time a girl child is born there are alot of restrictions to the mind. Today very successful women are said to be too career minded and have disjoint families.
Its not as much a shame to rape than be the victim to be raped. A woman's identity is kept under wraps after any such incident.
The root needs to be removed once and for all. Give a woman the right not to be commoditized. Her free will to marry or not and when , whom and how to marry.Social norms should change to cashless and foodless weddings, gatherings only to serve snacks and mocktails and expenses to borne by bride and groom , not their families.
This can remove the stigma of girl being a liability. She will spend what she earns. Should support parents.
Instead of worrying in what would be the expenditure on her wedding, parents can think on more profitable line as how much can she study and what would that cost.This would reduce unwanted killings in the womb. Once women get that confidence to reject and accept what they want, rights will not be asked but automatically given.
She is not a mere asset that needs to be saved and kept scratchfree till the wedding and handover.
She is a diamond, the more she sees life , the stronger she becomes and more she shines.
She is not to be bought by money, but won by love.
Respect women and respect their choices.
2 comments:
The amount of money spent on weddings is vulgar. People earn for their entire lifetimes and spend all that money for a few hours of band, baaza and baarat.
Very often, spending on weddings is justified under the garb of the "expectations of society" and status (whatever that means). This is a ridiculous argument. I mean, we, as individuals, make society and then society makes us. Ufff !!!
There is hardly any consistency in our attitude towards women. We worship women in the form of Goddesses in our temples but yet kill them in the womb. This is a shame. Ill treatment of women is perhaps our greatest failure as a race!
That is very true. There is very less respect for women in this country.
Yes weddings are a wasteful expenditure, most of the times in case expectations are not met it even seeps into the relationship of husband/in laws & wife.
Social Stigma and societal suicidal norms are slowly poisoning even the few sane minds.
Lets see where would be the Tipping point and low cost weddings become the in-thing. hehe.
Lets wait and watch.
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